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I'm kinda coming out of my blue funk that's been caused by my living situation with Dad and his dimentia. He's settled down the last couple of days and made life easier. I called his psychiatrist but the office is closed all week due to vacations, so I have to wait til next week to talk to someone about what's going on... I must formulate a plan to extricate myself from taking care of him. He's been living with me for almost 2 years. The stress of living this way is too much for me. I feel him taking me off the deep end of sanity, and I definately don't want to go there. It's time to think about ME and MY life, not his.... Selfish and self serving as that sounds, I must start thinking of my future and MY life. So, I'll be here more than I have in the last 4 days. I'll try to catch up on some blogs and start commenting again. My sense of humor is returning as the stress lessens. Thank you all for your concerns about me, but I'll be fine... Here's a little true joke for you... Q: Why is it so hard for women to find men who are sensitive, caring, and good looking? A: Because those men already have boyfriends. And that's the truth! 
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 7/1/2008 1:54 pm |
Jim You are facing a situation that some of us have already gone through and many of you will still face...... how to deal with an aging parent or loved one that needs more care than we can give. At some point it is IMPERATIVE that you put yourself first..... if you are not there to monitor his needs then who will. If you have sent yourself to an early grave because of caring for him who will then take care of him???? There are places that deal with these issues and can do so with a certain amount of distance that being a family member you do not have. Hang in there and I for one support you fully in finding an appropriate place for dad..... HUGS larry
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7/1/2008 3:06 pm |
I'm so glad to see that you are back with us, we may not be a solution to your problems but at least we can be supportive !!! the time you spend online here, can be time not having to have to deal with the stress and a release, can't it ?
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7/1/2008 5:05 pm |
Jim... sometimes life throws you strange twist... you are correct though, you can't be much good for your dad if you don't take care of yourself first... good luck finding a solution... i know its not easy... ~mike
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7/1/2008 5:25 pm |
There's a special place in Heaven for people who take on the responsibilities that you have.(Bet you thought you were headed for the other direction. ) But I agree, that you can't be much help to you're Dad if you don't get a time-out for yourself. Hope some help finds it's way to you. Jim
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7/1/2008 5:37 pm |
We're all here to offer whatever support we can, Jimbo. It's already been said, but I'll say it again. You can't be much help to your dad if you're falling apart from the stress. You've got to make yourself some "me" time. Hugs, Paul I would rather try and fail than never succeed because I failed to try
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7/1/2008 5:37 pm |
Jim, I'll try this again, When you finally get dad in a place you'll find that the structured environment will be good for him,the same things everyday at the same time is good for alzheimers patients and he will have other old codgers to tell stories with,and all kinds of old broads to chase.It will also free you from the stress that is so hard on your Krohns.You will be able to visit without all the little resentments and worries that are a natural part of being someones caregiver. You are a great son and no one can begrudge you a life. Luv and huggs Ricky
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7/1/2008 7:06 pm |
I really believe that this is the right thing for both you and your Dad. You will be of no use to him in a nut house. Wish I could give you a big hug Jim. I know this must be just tearing you up XOXO Jack Take the road less travelled.
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7/2/2008 12:23 am |
As usual everyone has lots of good comments, not much left but for me to add"yeah, what they said!" -- still I'll say it You clearly have the right idea. I know it must hurt to feel you can't help any more and what it feels like to have invested so much into it already I can't imagine. My parents were good to me, they both died quickly. Seems like a strange thing to be thankful for, but I am. Take care of you, because if you don't then no one will be there to take care of your dad...
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7/2/2008 2:05 am |
Yeah.....What they said! And yes, I already have a boyfriend/soon to be Husband!!! Hugs, & take care of #1! Dale. ps - How's the job situation looking?
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7/2/2008 7:37 am |
Jim, Getting your Dad into a care facillity is the best thing you can do for him and youself. You do need to think of yourself too, it's the best way you can be any help to your Dad, plus he'll have a lot more interaction with more people and that will be good for him as well. You're doing the right thing. Hugs, Jason Life isn't measured by the amount of breaths that we take. But by the moments that take our breath away.
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